Let's face it there are times that we all have had to start all over. The idea of beginning something again can be terrifying. The thought of all the efforts of planning and trying to re-call, re-connect and re-establish can be exhausting. However, when the passion of what you lost outweighs the pain of starting again…you go for it. I recently experienced this myself. All of my notes, recordings, scripts, connection etc…gone in one exchange. I felt lost, devastated and totally frustrated. All that I had accumulated over 25 years was gone in less than 30 minutes.
At first I took it as a sign that it just was not meant to be. Then a recalled a famous quote from an extraordinary book that stated, “I good man or woman falls seven times; but the strong one gets back up and begins again”. So I began to write again, reconnecting again and even establishing new friends and networks. I discovered the new things I was writing, and the new connections I was making and the new friends I discovered were the exact things I needed to propel me into my next level of living.
I realized I had established a life of comfort that kept me around the same mindset of people who were literally suffocating the life out of me. I wanted more but did not know how to go out and get it. I’d established relationships with people over the years; many of whom I had not spoken to, in over 10 years. All of my writings were based only on what I ever experienced and people I’ve ever met. I must inject here; I’ve met some exceptional people in my life, some of whom are still very intricately involved in my life today. However, I became very comfortable with my surroundings and friendships and I did not look elsewhere for new connections and friendships.
I soon understood that most of my failure to launch into anything new was fear and fear of rejection. However, the fact that I lost access to my old writings, friendships and connections so suddenly, forced me to come out of my “bubble” and “Start All over Again.” There are times our loyalty and commitment to others visions and dreams will lock us into a life that keeps us in a systematic life of going in circles but never achieving our own dreams. In cases like this, I believe things are disrupted in our lives to get us so frustrated that it will cause us to look into another direction. In my case, I was not reading the writing on the wall and so I was forced to change the direction I was going in order to really see the best that was ahead of me.
There are three main life challenges that I want to talk about that sometimes can cause us to stop dead in our tracks and refuse to begin again. However, we have to push past the pain of starting over again and become willing to start a fresh new start with new people, new ideas and possibly a new location.
3 Life Challenges That Forces You Begin Again
Our emotional healing is like the "peeling of an onion". The outer layer is big. This represents the most recent memory of your hurt that brought the most tears. As you peel down the layers, the tears begin to lesson. By the time you get to the core of the onion you discover the thing that caused you the most tears and pain is not even something you can hold in your hand. Suddenly, all the layers of your pain are gone and the tears have faded away.
Go ahead and let the healing begin…Peel the Onion
The thought of practicing another 30 second elevator pitch, revamping resume, attending interview after interview is exasperating. Looking for a new home, a new school for the kids and even a new car all are life changing events that you wish to avoid forever. Nevertheless, you finally accept that you must do it all again. However, it’s this kind of life changing experience that may help you realize your true passion and purpose in life. You see my passion has always been to help others become all they are called to be in life. However, I was trapped in a “job” that kept me too busy to pursue my passion. I finally realized my contract ending was a blessing in disguise, because I realized my passion to own my business, spend quality time with my family and help those in my community in their transitions in life from divorce, sickness, incarceration and much more.
Because my passion was greater than my fear of starting all over again…I took a step of faith and began to walk towards my dreams and visions. I soon became thankful for losing my job rather than being resentful. The loss of a job forced me to look in another direction. I was forced to start writing again, make new connections, network with new people and businesses and come out of my comfort zone.
There are of course, many more life challenges that hinder our ability to start all over again. The end result is…if you want to achieve your life goals and leave the legacy for your family as you desire; you have to push past the pain and begin again. So here are some generic steps to start again.
I hope this reading helps those who are dealing with life challenges and needed a bit of encouragement to start again. These are my daily affirmations that I rehearse in my life, because let’s face it we all have dealt with set-backs in our careers, on our jobs, in our businesses and certainly in our relationships. There comes a time we have to face the honest truth that we may have to re-group, re-vamp and even re-brand our image. But the truth remains, we all have to start again at some point in our lives. Like Nike “Just Do It”… So whatever it is, whether it’s a new job, business, relationship, education, weight loss etc…let every set-back become your motivation to “Start Again”